With deep, personal anguish I must tell you that my beloved Kathy was brutally beaten, raped, and murdered on the night of the final racing events of the February Hobie Catamaran Regatta in San Felipe, Mexico. Her screams were heard, and events were partially witnessed, but tragically, nothing was done to help her. Death was due to asphyxia from strangulation. Ironically and shockingly, the killer, Luis Enrique Gallegos Avila, was the security guard on duty for the El Cortez Hotel.

Kathy was a happy, smiling, outgoing, and enthusiastic person. She was sensitive, tender, loving, and giving. The two of us attended Catholic mass that last Sunday at a small church in San Felipe. Kathy and I loved each other very much and were close companions.

Everyone should learn from this horrible experience. Remember that Mexico is a developing country. There is no U.S. Constitution, no Bill of Rights, and no U.S. standards of protection and liability. Mexican law limits restitution for wrongful death to about $20,000. Unfortunately, violent crime and police corruption are becoming more widespread in Mexico.

My thoughts that apply to both men and women are the following: Always be aware that you are at increased risk for violent crime when on vacation. The surroundings are less familiar, and your guard is often relaxed in a seemingly peaceful setting. Avoid being out at night. Move about in small groups, and never be alone. Do not trust a "security guard." Stay familiar with some basic self-defense skills. Consult violent-crimes prevention groups and the U.S. State Department travel advisories.

Do something when you hear screams for help!

• Begin screaming yourself! Be persistent!
• Tell someone immediately! Tell police!